Reader, I know after the last email you're on the edge of your seat to hear about shame in the DNA and Nervous System Realms, aren't you? Obviously, you're just as obsessed with this as I am 😉.
Well, you don't have to wait any longer! Let's chat about the energy of shame in your interpersonal Realms: DNA, Nervous System.
I'm not covering the Organ Realm in this email because we've talked about it ad nauseum and I know your time and attention are incredibly valuable.
Shame and your DNA
In the DNA Realm, shame looks like camouflage. There's almost a chameleon-like quality to it, not in a "fawning" type of way where it's about momentary survival that can be shaken off when danger passes, but in a "if you don't conform, you don't belong" generational type of survival.
It doesn't coat the entirety of the DNA strand all at once, but moves along it like a sentient being. It's the only Realm where I see this happen, and it's really intriguing to watch.
When the DNA upgrades frequency, it can feel threatening to your generational safety and your ancestors; this is when the energy of shame will move along the DNA strand and block the frequency shift. It actively preserves the scars and abrasions on the DNA.
When shame is present in this Realm, shifting your DNA to the frequency where it wants to vibrate is like sisyphus pushing a boulder up a hill.
It may be easiest for you to understand this if I describe what I look for, or listen for, when working in the DNA Realm.
When working here, I'm not watching as much as I'm listening. Each person has a unique frequency that their DNA resonates at; I call it your home frequency, and it's like if someone sat at the top of the highest mountain in the thinnest atmosphere and the cleanest air and rang a chime. That expansion, clarity, and resonance of sound waves is how your home frequency sounds to me. Any other sound has static or a discordant note present when you listen closely.
To be frank, very few of us are in our home frequency. And a large part of that is due to the energy of shame in this Realm.
When we release shame and unbind our expression and the potential of our lineage, when we heal the scars and wounds engraved on the amino acids, when we allow them to shift their connection and pairings, our DNA moves to its home frequency.
When we try to move ourselves to this frequency without releasing shame first, we experience what has commonly become known as "ascension symptoms" (I don't love the phrase, but it's sort of well-known, so I'll use it here). We hit a wall or barrier each time where we get sick, headaches, migraines, illness flares, etc. so we sink back down a little bit in frequency to where it feels safe. We may have a gradual increase, pushing that frequency range where we experience this a tiny bit less each time, but we don't actually shift all the way to our home frequency.
When we've released the energy of shame and your DNA is free to find its home frequency unimpeded, we move through this "barrier" with ease. It can feel like a light-headed sensation, your ears may pop, you may feel dizzy or a tiny bit nauseated, but it passes quickly and your body settles in.
Shame and the Nervous System
Shame in the Nervous System Realm often feels like self-safety making and sounds like shaming yourself for completely normal nervous system responses. But what does it look like?
This energy fits itself into the gaps of the myelin sheath of the nervous system, and similar to the bones, inside the tubule structures, to create what feels like a double-bind or a catch-22. The energy of shame will make it feel safer to stay small, to not take risks that may trigger you or expand your nervous system capacity in any way. Yet, at the same time, it rears its head when you DO move outside of what feels safe and will sound off messages like "you knew you shouldn't do that." "Why would you take that risk?" "You knew it would turn out this way."
These are some of the most insidious messages of shame in our embodied energy, and can be slippery even as a practitioner to root shame out of the nervous system. It disguises itself easily like the energetics of the nervous system. It has a stake here in "blending in" just like it encourages you to do.
When I work with shame in the Nervous System, I jokingly flip on what I call a black light. It's not quite what it is, but gives you the best visual. It's an energy that glows a brilliant green, and shame in the nervous system seems to amplify that glow, while your nervous system energy itself fades away into the light. This lets me understand where the energy of shame is hiding and how best to dissolve it out of this Realm.
Shame leaving your nervous system feels like all of the battles you've fought inside of yourself dissolving and leaving peace in its wake.
Shame Session #2
These two Realms, as well as the Organ Realm, are the last we'll venture through together in the Shame Sessions. On Thursday, September 25, 2025 at 1 pm we'll meet live on Zoom and systematically move through them together.
This is when we move into the story of we.
We'll release where the energy of shame distorts how you belong, how you co-regulate, and how your coding is expressed from generation to generation. We’ll address shame in its more complex forms like community distortion, hypervigilance, and inherited guilt that became family dynamics, and release it. We open the way back into authentic relationship with yourself and others.
If you have questions about whether this group is a good fit for you, please reach out, I'm happy to have a conversation and answer questions I may not have covered in the emails so far!
I can't wait to do this work together,
Ash
P.S. Tickets are available for the Shame Sessions until the morning of the second session. If you need more time to think or consider this group, you have until September 25 at 10 am Eastern.